“Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: You should mind your own business and work with your hands” 1 Thess: 4:11
You see, the phrase “Mind your business” has been given too many interpretations which most often or never have ended up as friendly. But I tell you, when you’re being reminded to mind your own business, accept such reminder with so much wholeness of the heart because whether you know it or not and whether you like it or not, whoever tells you to mind your business has shown some type of care. Yes! Because when you mind your business, you do it for you and not for them. There’s so much gracefulness that comes with minding one’s own business, I tell you!
It’s so much pity that we end up going through life learning to mind every other person’s business but ours. How much we love ourselves!
Here’s the catch, when you mind your business, you have less to worry about, less to think about, your ears and your heart is protected from hearing and conceiving those “gross, ridiculous and unimaginable” things that go on in people’s lives (as we like to see it) and we have so much space to worry about our own selves. On the other hand, when you mind the businesses of others, you feel restless, unfocused, disillusioned, and disheartened. Quite frankly, time is never even enough to worry about our own businesses, not to talk of others’.
You don’t need to know those “Insider details” about people’s lives. If you’ve long been snooping–stop it! Refuse to entangle yourself in anything so short of your business, my dear. Block your ears from the gossips, babbles, rumours and bickering that have not “begged” for your attention. Yes, if it hasn’t keep moving! And even if it craves your attention, yes you may give it a little of your analytical jargons and words of wisdom but still you must keep moving and bear in mind to “remember to not forget to Mind your own precious business”. Yes, your business is too precious to be paid less attention to over the buzz of another man’s life.
Well, by nature, gossips are so sweet!
I’d be realistic here. It’s actually so hard to block your ears to all the juicy information you get about people, from people. It’s what you do with it that matters! When you sit with gossipy peers and you spin and spun information about others, until you make loathsome dresses out of it and begin to sell for meagre profits of more detestable laughter and scorn to entertain your already septic and gullible minds about the life of another, wouldn’t you have placed on yourself so much unpaid workload? – When you could have easily minded your own pretty business.
It becomes amazing how; those things you heard, in the end may not even be true. But once you have sold your
pretty ugly dresses to a bunch of gullible others, adding more labels to what you already heard, what would you then care about the truth? Here I’d say, if you must meddle in the business of others and sell to others, make pretty wears instead! Have some dignity and spread factual information. If you got so much time to manage your business and that of others, invest the time in doing a proper research of your meddling and tell tales of nothing but the truth that you know. Then you would have utilised your time properly.
Unfortunately, more than a habit, it’s actually a sickness for some that perhaps stemmed from an overdose of an “anti-mind-my-business” tablet. These ones take it upon themselves to feel in charge of everyone’s business. They stroll around with the weight of the world on their shoulders, concentrating ostensibly on how to control the planet. But you must remember, everyone, no matter how stupid is fit enough in dealing with their own businesses. Relax.
We’re meant to be friends right? And friends help one another to grow. So I’d repeat “Do yourself a favour and mind your own business”. Some choice of friends can be infectious. For your own life’s sake, choose to cut off the entanglement you have with them that makes you so disposed to the negative sides of others, and if you must hang on, figure out how much measure of gossipy liquor you will be served, whilst maintaining your own logical sense of reasoning. No your input is not always needed, you’re not always required to give counsel on how things ought to or ought not to be– You’re not the controller of the universe! My friend, it’s graceful to laugh if you may but in the end, keep mute or walk away gracefully.
Where do you draw that pretty line between your business and that of others?
That quietness inside of you that reminds you constantly that absence of respect towards one’s self begins by neglecting your own self and prioritizing the affairs of others over yours. When you get to that line, save yourself and the world the damage, twitch your nose a little and come back home!
“The hardest part about business is minding your own”– Drake
Written By: ‘Nonye J. Chidolue (@NonyeWrites)